Many times, I realize that because I'm black and gay, I'm seen as an exotic choice, but never attractive. And because of that, I found myself comparing myself to white men and asking myself why I wasn't like that, or how much easier everything would be if my skin was a bit lighter.
It hurts a lot, because it's already difficult to be gay, and when you look in the mirror and see that your nose and your face aren't the norm, it gives the impression that you weren't made for that space, that that isn't your place. I really like to dance. I was always extroverted, since I was small.
Everywhere I go to dance, I always see the guys looking at me, but every time I join the group or want something more sensual with any of them, they always say 'you're not my type. Once, when online chat services were popular, I fell for a guy.
We sent many messages to each other and always spoke on the phone, but digital cameras didn't exist. One day before we met, I told him I was black, and then he said he wasn't attracted to me. We met, and he was extremely cold with me. It's strange just how much the white norm is the standard for many people in the gay community. If you're far from that standard for any reason, you're written off by many groups.
It's stressful. I was once at a party with two couples, and a male friend of theirs who I didn't know were at a party. My friends started making hints at me and that other guy, because we were both single, so that we could start talking and getting to know each other.
I was already starting to get interested because he was really attractive, but he closed up completely and didn't want to chat with me at all. So I asked him why and he said, 'I don't like black guys; I can't stand black people. I cried a lot when I got home. I always get invited to meet in secret places, just with the intention to have sex.
Whenever I have sex, I feel that the guy treats me like a fetish and then I'm discarded. When I was 19, I went out with a white guy who would only go out with me in secret or after parties. I deluded myself and thought that the relationship with him could evolve, but he dumped me at an event to go out with a white guy. I was really angry and when I went to confront him, he said to my face that 'he would never date a black guy.
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